So, this girl who I like and also think she likes me back, passing her in the halls last year I didn't think much of it, thought maybe it was just me, but this year she's in my lunch(in fact sits at the table next to mine) and decided "yeah she likes me"
note we've never talked to each other before
Not too long ago she added me as a friend on facebook and she is like trigger happy when it comes to joining groups, I join most of them because I can relate to them...
and more recent groups she joined: "Trying To Hint Something Out To Someone But The Idiot Doesn't Get It" "take a hint silly, i love you ♥" and "We didn't drift apart, you changed."
She is obviously trying to tell the person she likes(Who I originally thought was me) but that last group looks like its directed at someone else...
should I just ask her who she's hinting to, or should I wait or... wat do
and if I'm wrong about this I'm clearly wrong on my idea of what look someone gives their crush
Make a group called "People that want me in their pants" and see if she joins. Or if anyone else attractive joins.
XD
Quote from: BOREDFANBOY on January 10, 2010, 08:34:50 PM
Make a group called "People that want me in their pants" and see if she joins. Or if anyone else attractive joins.
/thread
But considering you've never actually talked to her before - I am sure that your communication skills are out of this world. So, you know, asking her would be dumb when you could, I don't know, ask her out.
You want someone on here to be direct with a girl Mack?
Quote from: Mystic on January 10, 2010, 10:02:32 PM
You want someone on here to be direct with a girl Mack?
I realize the high aspergers rate makes social situations awkward, but, I think he can manage. Besides, it's a lot better to look like a fool asking someone out then looking like a fool awkwardly shuffling your feet and dodging your own question.
Though it is much more amusing to an outsider.
Quote from: Mystic on January 10, 2010, 10:05:17 PM
Though it is much more amusing to an outsider.
Unfortunately, I wouldn't be able to see it anyways. :(
But if nothing else, I second BFB's idea. Although, I'd watch out for the large guys in orange jumpsuits.
Quote from: mackormoses on January 10, 2010, 10:06:48 PM
Unfortunately, I wouldn't be able to see it anyways. :(
But if nothing else, I second BFB's idea. Although, I'd watch out for the large guys in orange jumpsuits.
Or silver.
I think I should wait for the new haircut thing to go away before asking anyone out...
Quote from: L10 on January 11, 2010, 02:38:50 PM
I think I should wait for the new haircut thing to go away before asking anyone out...
Why? There's nothing wrong with it. If it really matters that much you're not having a relationship anyways. Perdiod.
Quote from: mackormoses on January 11, 2010, 04:24:51 PM
Why? There's nothing wrong with it. If it really matters that much you're not having a relationship anyways. Perdiod.
Ah, yes, you're right, my haircut just kinda wrecked my self confidence, I'm working on building it back up.
wai-wait a second, wouldn't "We didn't drift apart, you changed." be saying to someone else that like "I don't like you anymore because you changed" I don't feel this could likely be aimed at me...(this is a good thing, because I noticed that I'm starting to think positively, my confidence is growing >:D )
Quote from: L10 on January 11, 2010, 07:27:36 PM
wai-wait a second, wouldn't "We didn't drift apart, you changed." be saying to someone else that like "I don't like you anymore because you changed" I don't feel this could likely be aimed at me...(this is a good thing, because I noticed that I'm starting to think positively, my confidence is growing >:D )
1. Just ask her out. If she says yes, you win. If she says no, it builds character.
2. I think you look good with your haircut. I'd say yes if I were her.
Just ask her out. At worst she says no.
Also, this is a do as I say, not as I do, because otherwise I'll ban you.
Quote from: Dog Food on January 11, 2010, 08:20:22 PM
1. Just ask her out. If she says yes, you win. If she says no, it builds character.
2. I think you look good with your haircut. I'd say yes if I were her.
This, minus that last sentence.
Also, after 3 or 4 times, "no" stops building character and you revert to your "meh" state.
Maybe I'll make a move at the end of the week, I'm am well overwhelmed in make-up work for programming and overall having a absolutely terrible week, this may even be my last post until my work is done. I'll be sure to leave news after I make my move.
Quote from: L10 on January 13, 2010, 04:07:42 PM
Maybe I'll make a move at the end of the week, I'm am well overwhelmed in make-up work for programming and overall having a absolutely terrible week, this may even be my last post until my work is done. I'll be sure to leave news after I make my move.
I'm holding you to this. If you don't, week ban.
Me: "Do you want me to tell you now, or in person"
Her: "tell me what"
Me: "...that I like you..."
Her: "I don't even know you."
Me: "Sorry if that seemed creepy, wasn't supposed to seem like that, but uhh, I thought you had liked me(that's actually what that other message was all about) and maybe I really was over thinking and hoping for a lot when I saw you become a fan of that one group that was like "If you like her, tell her" so...that's what I did...maybe if you want we could get to know each other?"
Her: "I'm sorry, I don't even know you. I'm not really looking for anything right now."
So yeah, I'm doing it wrong, probably should have done the get to know her thing first
Quote from: L10 on January 20, 2010, 02:48:20 PM
Her: "I don't even know you."
I lol'd hard. Sorry dude D:
Maybe I'm being too hopeful, but she never denied liking me. Is it bad that I'm more concerned if I was right or wrong than about being "rejected"
(three times in a row, ouch)
It's okay dude. We're almost all lonely. ;)
And I lol'd. ;_;
So you got shot down. Lesson learned and life goes on.
Thats why you get to know them first. Starting with 'I like you' won't work or that will happen. Even if she's a little interested, she won't want to date you until she knows you better.
Yeah, you did it wrong, if you like someone, a lot of the time it will seem like they like you, why? Because when you like someone, your mind really wants them to like you, so it tricks you into thinking they like you, even if you barely know them.
I plan on making conversation with her on facebook, and try to befriend her(which is something I recently realized that I've never done before)
Any conversation topics, ice breakers, things not to say?
Quote from: Friendly Hostile on January 12, 2010, 12:10:49 AM
Just ask her out. At worst she says no.
Also, this is a do as I say, not as I do, because otherwise I'll ban you.
5 weeks?
Don't want to rush things?
Quote from: Henry Touchdown on January 29, 2010, 08:52:38 PM
I plan on making conversation with her on facebook, and try to befriend her(which is something I recently realized that I've never done before)
Any conversation topics, ice breakers, things not to say?
Don't do it on facebook. If you want to get to know her, just find a reason to talk to her the first time, after that it's much easier.
Maybe just excuses, but that's kinda hard to do. She's a grade below me(so we don't share any classes) and I'm only at my school for half the day. She was in my lunch, I don't know about now with the new semester and all...
[15:44:06] <Lichig0> but uhh here's what I got now
[15:44:17] <Lichig0> "Caitlin ***** you can't even hold a normal conversation but you can tell your friends I ruined your life. whatever helps your perfect reputation cause I'm not losing sleep tonight."
[15:44:20] <Lichig0> and then the comments
[15:44:39] <Lichig0> "Jim Y**** sorry, i didn't mean to"
[15:44:45] <Sync> wat
[15:45:04] <Lichig0> "Caitlin ******* it's alright Jim, I know you're sorry lol"
[15:45:08] <Lichig0> so idk
That was her status Dx idk what to think of it
I don't know what the intercourse any of that means, so I don't know hat to think of it either.
Well, I had a small conversation on facebook(I'm not used to making/continuing conversations)
[9:28:02 PM] Me : hey
[9:29:47 PM] Her : hi
[9:30:17 PM] Me : what's up?(hope you don't mind just a little conversation)
[9:30:28 PM] Her : nm you
[9:31:23 PM] Me : pretty bored, I had a bunch a friends over for the past few days now no one's here so it's just like really quite ><
[9:31:35 PM] Her : i see
[9:32:18 PM] Me : I must say, a lot of the groups you join make me lol
[9:32:35 PM] Her : i only join the ones that are true
[9:33:19 PM] Me : lol, I join most of the one's I can relate to, how do manage to find all of them Dx
[9:33:35 PM] Her : they're just in my feed
[9:33:54 PM] Me : oh, lol
[9:34:04 PM] Her : yeah
I'll be honest, she doesn't sound very interested from what I'm reading in that conversation.
Quote[9:31:23 PM] Me : pretty bored, I had a bunch a friends over for the past few days now no one's here so it's just like really quite ><
[9:31:35 PM] Her : i see
Sounds to me like she has nothing to say or doesn't care, so she's giving you a curt response.
Quote[9:33:35 PM] Her : they're just in my feed
[9:33:54 PM] Me : oh, lol
[9:34:04 PM] Her : yeah
The conversation seems forced here, and is this how it ends or did you just not post the rest of the conversation?
I'm not saying don't keep trying. Continue to make conversations, and if you can find at least one thing you two have in common then you can hook her for days. Trust me, one guy was able to bring me in really quickly over one common interest (which basically involved meet ups after school, letting me borrow his stuff, and eventually hooking up at his place a few times). What you need to do from there is build a foundation. If you don't build a foundation for something more, then once that interest is over with the relationship will just fizzle away. Good luck to you.
Yeah, the conversation just kinda stopped. It certainly had the aura of resistance to it, not too sure if I feel motivated enough to continue.
Next time we have a conversation(which I kinda hope we do and have a less tension filled conversation) I'll maybe bring up Super Mario or something, been playing that and a few weeks ago she became a fan of NSMBWii
Stop being creepy.
There's my advice.
Quote from: Drezford_the_Rebell on January 31, 2010, 10:25:58 PM
Stop being creepy.
There's my advice.
bawwww that's what I'm afraid of ;____;
Quote from: Henry Touchdown on January 31, 2010, 10:31:51 PM
bawwww that's what I'm afraid of ;____;
Ignore her for a while, and act like you have your own agenda.
At least you won't look creepy.
Yeah just forget her, she sounds like a preppy stupid ninny from that convo.
Well then again my view of the female is very low, they should not have rights they are all ninnyes etc etc.
So do what you want but yeah.
Quote from: Henry Touchdown on January 31, 2010, 08:22:01 PM
[9:31:23 PM] Me : pretty bored, I had a bunch a friends over for the past few days now no one's here so it's just like really quite ><
[9:31:35 PM] Her : i see
she doesn't care
Thanks for pointing out the obvious :|
....
:(
Quote from: Link. on February 01, 2010, 08:47:59 AM
Yeah just forget her, she sounds like a preppy stupid ninny from that convo.
Well then again my view of the female is very low, they should not have rights they are all ninnyes etc etc.
So do what you want but yeah.
This seems to qualify as a "intercourse you" moment.
Quote from: Henry Touchdown on January 31, 2010, 09:32:11 PM
Yeah, the conversation just kinda stopped. It certainly had the aura of resistance to it, not too sure if I feel motivated enough to continue.
Next time we have a conversation(which I kinda hope we do and have a less tension filled conversation) I'll maybe bring up Super Mario or something, been playing that and a few weeks ago she became a fan of NSMBWii
If you ever do have a conversation again, you probably shouldn't just spontaneously bring it up. Like someone else said, you should make it more casual and less creepy. Maybe get into a chat or something that a couple of your friends, her friends and her are in so it isn't just the two of you talking. Then you can see her in a different light and maybe she'll see you in one, too.
Because honestly, you have a lot of repairs to make after coming on too strong the first time around. She's probably making a point to distance herself from you even more now because she knows that you like her and she doesn't want to accidently send a similar message back. I'll say it one more time: One on one conversations are probably not the best way to go right now. An easy way to see her would be to get into the same clubs at school if it's becoming near impossible to talk to her online.
But if she isn't that important to you then maybe you should let it go. You should really only put effort into a relationship if you really do like the person and want something more with them. Otherwise, there isn't any point and you might as well give up now.
"Caitlin [lastname] but if my heart says i'm sorry can we leave it at that? because i just want for all of this to end."
Maybe I should just back down..... :(
*sigh*
Oh, just song lyrics ><