Hypothetical situation, it can happen to anyone and I want to know what you would do if it happened to you.
Let's say you're completely in love, you're married to the person you're in love with. You have a/some child/children (if homo, you adopted, yes you did). You love your whole family.
New situation, you're married, have a/some child/children, love the child/children, used to be in love with the spouse, aren't anymore. You hate your spouse with a passion and are considering a divorce.
Now, for both situations, your spouse gets in a terrible accident, IDK what it was (car accident, plane crash, mauled by a poodle, etc.), but your spouse was horribly injured. Your spouse looks extremely ugly (stitches, missing teeth, etc.), and is now paralyzed from the waist down and cannot reproduce anymore. After a while in the hospital, you would have to take care of them, clean the puss out of some scars, help them go to the bathroom, cook their food, take care of the child/children, AND have a job on your own, you'd hire some help but the bill from the accident was too expensive and you cannot afford the help. You may possibly ask family for help.
In situation 1, your spouse tells you "I understand if you left me since I am like this now," obviously they are saying that so they wouldn't feel guilty for making you stay with them.
In situation 2, your spouse tells you "I love you, always have, always will," obviously they are saying that so you wouldn't leave them, you both know they wouldn't attract anyone else.
Your kid(s) still love them in both situations.
Would you stay? Why or why not? PRETEND YOU'RE IN SERIOUS DISCUSSION.
If you are leaving a weak and injured person all on their own, you are a heartless man, no matter what they did to you.
Yeah, I would. I wouldn't abandon my wife for that.
Situation 1: I'd stick with them.
Situation 2: Depends on a host of other variables. If I hated the spouse because he was being unfaithful or was otherwise attempting to actively sabotage the relationship, yes, I'd likely continue with the divorce proceedings. Were it simply because I was "falling out of love" (which I don't believe exists; I think it means that there was never really love in the first place, only infatuation), no. It also depends on how old the kids are and the spouse's ability to pay for his own medical treatment.
I would leave them in the dust. Though this is extremely hypothetical because I would never get married or have children. I wouldn't ruin my own life to help someone else, even if it was my wife or kids. I suppose people will call me heartless, but I would just never let someone drag me down with them.
Situation 1: I'd stick with them. I love them after all.
Situation 2: I'd call them out on their bullpoop lies about always loving me, and I'd make it clear that I'm only sticking with them because they need help and I'm the only one who can care for them.
Leaving because of that? Well, that would be such a heartless decision...I wouldn't leave then, no matter what they did to me...leaving a weak and defenseless person on their own...
I personally couldn't see me hating my current love anyway...
/me is not a heartless being
The first, of course i'd stay, the thought of leaving wouldn't even cross my mind.
The second is a tough one, and it really depeneds on why i'm considering a divorce. Like Dark Link said, I don't believe you can "fall out of love", if you really love someone, enough to get married and have kids, you don't just fall out. But, if we were both unhappy, I wouldn't have the accident force me to stay with them, that isn't right (Then again, mabe the accident will make up realise how much we really love each other or something). Although I would continue with the divorce, I would still take care of the kids, visit her and help her when she needed it, because just leaving them in the dust after an accident isn't right either.