I've been noticing a lot of thing happening here since i've joined this forum. One is the how people tend to have a rapid change in attitudes and how some of us here hold grudges againsts each other in a weird way.
I mean attitude change going from a nice person, and suddenly just ends up cussing at people in a very fowl way.
Why is that? I find this kind of stuff being rather destructive.
Hm... it could be that they're really stressed, and trying not to lash out at people they don't know, despite needing someone to talk to. Well, that works for the attitude change, anyway. Don't know about grudges, I've never seen the point in them.
People let too many things bother them. Even though it's just things over the internet too with people that they most likely won't ever have contact with anyplace else.
This site has pretty much been like that the whole time except now people who may have been on the receiving end in the past are now the ones giving it out. There's also the ones that have left because of it over the last couple years.
They probably have something bad going on in real life. It's easier to be mad at the internet than actual people.
Quote from: Cornwad on March 26, 2010, 07:44:07 PM
They probably have something bad going on in real life. It's easier to be mad at the internet than actual people.
Yeah, but then that kind of behavior, it affects their attitude with people they know and it becomes even more destructive. Thats what i seriously don't get. Why do people get mad over the internet?
One thing i notieced was that someone here, (Not Mentioning names or anything else and don't ask me about it) has had some issues here and affected him with his outside life from this forum. People held grudges against him for just simply who he was and he let it boil up inside of him.
In my case, I'm usually just joking. If it seems like it seems like I have an attidude and/or am angry, there's a 90% chance I'm actually not mad.
I'm here to reaffirm this particular point. -.-
...well, until you bring up one particular person.
looking back on it people here have become really bitter
Quote from: AcerChris on March 26, 2010, 07:46:23 PM
Yeah, but then that kind of behavior, it affects their attitude with people they know and it becomes even more destructive. Thats what i seriously don't get. Why do people get mad over the internet?
One thing i notieced was that someone here, (Not Mentioning names or anything else and don't ask me about it) has had some issues here and affected him with his outside life from this forum. People held grudges against him for just simply who he was and he let it boil up inside of him.
And
that is why being a psychologist brings in the big bucks. People these days need to be told that self destructive isn't a good thing. I honestly don't know if they realize what they're doing, but it really is a shame.
Myself, I am a very stable person emotionally. I rarely get angry and never usually get sad unless if something bothers me to the point where it's absolutly uncalled for. I mean, I vent to get rid of my anger, but i try my hardest not to go into an outburst.
Only person I hold a grudge against is Zeph. And he fully deserves it.
RAWR! I RAGE SO MUCH NOT EVEN CAPS LOCK CAN STOP MY HATE!!!
[spoiler]THAT'S BETTER![/spoiler]
Hm. I don't have a grudge against anyone here. But if someone has one on me, I'd like to know. D:
i think i only lash out on people who are generally bad people
I only get angry at people who look, act, think, or talk different than me.
Quote from: AcerChris on March 26, 2010, 07:46:23 PM
One thing i notieced was that someone here, (Not Mentioning names or anything else and don't ask me about it) has had some issues here and affected him with his outside life from this forum. People held grudges against him for just simply who he was and he let it boil up inside of him.
Sounds a lot like my situation.
Actually, Depression takes a lot out of me. I go through almost every night contemplating my use in this world, trying to contain all my emotions inside that always try to get the best of me. I've seen them slowly begin to control me.
[spoiler=depressing story]One night I was texting someone, feeling as happy as could be, suddenly my hand tensed up, i dropped my phone, and collapsed on my bed. I lied there for a while, and got another text from my friend asking me if I was ok. I replied to him, "No...I'm not." He asked me why, I said I just needed a minute to think. Then, I sent a message to him saying: "HELP ME...PLEASE" and i didn't get a reply until it was too late. I don't remember this firsthand, it was from when I read through the conversation the next day and noticed how I'd been acting. This was 3 weeks ago, the last time I cut myself.[/spoiler]
I haven't done so since then, thankfully, and I'm awfully proud of myself because of it. Just, the thing is, even though I try my hardest to contain myself, sometimes I say thinks without even thinking. Because I can't think. They just come out without even letting me use common sense. Usually all these bottled up feelings result in anger, which may make me look like a raging idiot sometimes, when I really just need to talk to someone and calm down.
I've already written more than I expected to... but now I have to get this out.
Don't worry much, I'm getting better now. Like I said, it's been a good 3 weeks. I still go through nights where I can't control my feelings, but they haven't gone to that point. I'm really a nice guy, if only I wasn't constantly tortured from the inside out by my emotions all the time.
Quote from: No Comment on March 26, 2010, 07:43:38 PM
People let too many things bother them.
That. It happens anywhere; Even in real life, on the phone, texting, etc. Even when I'm on other forum's I always tend to have some sympathy at least due to remembering the fact that these are still real people, not your tools for entertainment by any means. [spoiler]unless you're on the original nsider or 4chan[/spoiler] Not everyone will be 100% perfect. It's just far easier to blow events out of proportion in many situations on the internet instead of real life.
As for myself I personally don't hold any grudges from at least here. Some of you may annoy me a bit from time to time (hi duality werewolf) but I'm fine with you all. I have a pretty big patience and tolerance level. Comes from mainly a few people in real life I suppose and due to staying calm well.
Quote from: Friendly Hostile on March 27, 2010, 07:42:40 PM
Only person I hold a grudge against is Zeph. And he fully deserves it.
Am I insane for the fact I'm actually able to put up with him for a long ass time and chat with him?
Seriously. Zeph can make
anyone look nice.
I am bipolar. So this happens to me alot.
I also do not forgive anyone, which includes myself. If someone intercourse s up they should have thought about what they were doing more carefully, you can't change the past and so I hold grudges against someone until I die. Or they do.
Not many things get me upset. *Like actually upset, a change in text or tone of voice is me having fun or me being annoyed* but when something does I don't forgive the person. Ever.
I have never cut myself, or seriously contemplated suicide. I would never, and could never go through with it anyway.
Right now the plans i'v had for the summer and for the next good 3-5 years of my life just got completely intercourse ed up. I'll explain.
I was moving to Texas this year with 3 of my team mates for our 2010 Halo contract states at least 3 people need to be within a 30 minute distance from one another, otherwise the team will not work. So the 4 of us were going to get a nice house and lan every day so we could get ready for the events this year. But one of my team mates *Who has a twin brother who is also on team* failed one of his classes. So now they both have to move back to Germany, which means our contract is now invalid and I don't know if I can compete in the events this year.
We have had this planned for a few months, and one little screw up erased it. I won't forgive him, or his parents for there decision. Because it upset me.
I'v gone through relationship problems, and I was depressed for a very long time. I was even crowned biggest emo on this forum a year back I think. But my everyday mood I would say is Melancholy. Or very mellow and indifferent. I have my own theory on religion and life which differs from anyone in this world.
A good statement would be "I'm not really living, merely going through the motions of it."
I'm not really one to hold grudges against other people. Nah, I love you all, guys!
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And the few girls around here too!
I'm not here for that long to have seen for myself what you're talking about, with the whole attitude change and whatnot. So maybe I'll see it in the future.